“You never take out the garbage!”
“We haven’t had a date night in months.”
“I’m the only one who helps out around the house!”
“What does a girl have to do get flowers around here?!”
If you want to skip an unnecessary argument, slow your roll on the complaints and instead of sharing what your partner does that drives you up the wall, instead ask for what you want instead.
“I need for you to offer to do a chore, so I get some relief.”
“I want to go out for dinner and a movie.”
“I’d love some time alone for myself.”
“I love when you buy me flowers. It means so much when you find peonies, since they are my favorite.”
Research shows I statements reflecting what you actually do want lead to quicker action and less conflict. Win win.
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